What mothers day? Ok, I love Toni to pieces, always will no matter what. But yesterday, she would NOT listen to one word I'd say. And this whole potty training... she is now using to her benefit. If we're out and she's bored she'll say she needs to use the potty. And sometimes she does which is awesome! But sometimes it's to get out of things. For example, yesterday Junior was working. He works every Mother's day. I know... that's another story. So I'm feeling bummed, again, for the third year in a row. No nothing. No appreciation. whatever. And I decide, screw that. I'll take matters into my own hands. So I decide, i'll have my own mothers day lunch with my baby. So after I run a few errands with Toni, we go to Chili's. I tell her, ok be nice for mommy and stay seated in your chair ok? It's mommy's day and you have to be nice. She agrees. We go in and order. i have to tell her a few times to sit down (she stands in her chair), but whatever. The food finally gets there and she says, she's has to potty.
I suspect this is a way to get out of eating but I can't take the risk of calling her bluff b/c she has refused to wear any pull ups or diapers during this outing. And well, I am by myself at a restaurant with her. Probably my first mistake. So anyway, I take her and she goes #1. WOO HOO! I'm ecstatic! So we get back to the table and ONE bite in and she says, "I need to use the potty." Ok, NOW I know she is just trying to get out of having to eat. So I tell her she just went and she says she has to go and starts throwing a fit. I'm not doing this. So I tell the waitstress I need to go boxes. Yes, ONE bite in and I pack up. So much for that. So I'm pretty peeved. And I know she's a toddler, she doesn't really know the difference. And I think, well I shouldn't be alone doing this but then again, my mistake for thinking I can swing it.
So we get home, and the entire time I'm trying to get her to eat. she BARELY eats. So by this time I give up. It's time for her nap anyway. Does she fall asleep right away. Of course not. And I have to say, she is normally pretty good. But for whatever reason, call it mothers day retaliation-i dont know, she will not take her nap. Of course she has to use the potty like 4 or 5 times. And Of course only does once, the first try. And I hate getting upset with her right before she naps. I dont like her to sleep with a negative feeling. but, that's what happens. An hour into getting her to nap I take away her dolls in her bed (because she was playing with them) and tell her to sleep. She's upset and goes to sleep. Now I feel terrible.
Ok, I think maybe the second half of the day will turn out much better. Afterall we have a mothers day dinner with Junior's family and his mom and lola are in town so it should be nice. After her nap I go in there and the first thing she wants to talk about is how she wouldn't listen to me and she wants to behave now. So I partly feel bad because she really did go to sleep feeling bad. :( Not my intention. But she's now saying she wants to behave so i'm feeling good about the second half. So we planned to hang out at Junior's aunts house (where is mom and lola were staying) before going to dinner. So I tell her, "Let's take a bath so we can get ready to see Lola Pat, ok?" She doesn't want to take a bath. I'm calm and I tell her we need to be nice and clean, etc. Another fit comes in. Yeah, terrible three's. so now I have to raise my voice AGAIN. And I begin to count. yeah you know what I mean. So she starts crying, but gets over it.
Dinner wasn't too bad. It was really nice of Rachelle to pay for it too. But Toni did quite a few times say she needed to use the potty and i knew it was because she got bored. She went once, the first time I took her and the subsequent trips were... a waste. She kept wanting to sit on my lap while i was eating, or wanted to run around while eating. ugh.
So all in all, I got dinner from Rachelle. To me that was the nicest thing I got on mothers day and it wasn't from my own little family.
ok. wah wah wah, right? So I look back and think ok. Maybe i'm taking it too personal. I mean it would be nice to get some appreciation. Hey, I think you're an awesome mother and I appreciate everything you do. But whatever. I know, maybe I should express my feelings of underappreciation. But trust me, it would only bring more tension to the topic. So screw it. I know I'm a bad ass mom. And if no one is going to appreciate me, I will appreciate myself. Sounds wrong. lol...
My mom always told me, "Don't feel sorry for yourself because no one else is feeling sorry for you." Might be blunt but very true. very very true. SO, i blogged this, got it out my system and back on track.
Happy Mother's Day Mom. I hope you know how much we appreciated all that you did. Rest in peace.
Monday, May 9, 2011
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Poo
This morning Toni woke up and said, "I have to use the potty now." So I took her and she pooped... a BIG one! WOO HOO! I never thought poo would make me so happy!
Friday, May 6, 2011
Funny
As I published my last post I looked at the date, May 6, 2011 and thought... I wonder what I was posted May 6, 2008 (if i posted) before Toni was born. Go take a look. The topic of May 6, 2011 and May 6, 2008 are ironically somewhat related. hehe...
Potty Training
By far, the most frustrating task to date. I'm sure I have much more frustrating things to come in parenthood, but to date this has to be it.
They say girls are easier to train than boys. Everyone I know with a girl says it was easy. Took no time. Boys were harder. Well, not this girl. this girl has been in training for a year now. We introduced the potty to her at about 15 months. She seemed very interested in it. She wanted to sit on it all the time. I thought wow.... this is gonna be easy. wrong.
The first time she peed in it, honestly, she freaked out. I guess that feeling of lack of protection that a diaper gives freaked her out. But we cheered her on and danced liked idiots and she found some comfort in that... although reluctant to pee again. We backed off. Didn't want to push it as they say that making them do it when they aren't physcially and emotionally ready can set you back. Time came and she wanted to try the potty again. This time she did #2! Well that really freaked her out. She actually started crying this time. Junior was at work so I did the idiot dance by myself. Cheered her on, told her how proud I was, etc. She felt good about it. But anytime after that if asked whether or not she wanted to use the potty, she would always say no. So we backed off.
Time comes again and she's curious about the potty. She still seems a tad reluctant but interested at the same time. So I've also read that sometimes when the parent uses the toilet while they sit on their own potty, it helps. SO... I did that. I sat there... while she sat there. It was a while. But we sat. She says she's done and gets up to get a diaper or pull up. So she runs to her room to get it, i'm making my way there but not yet there. Then I hear crying. When I get there, she had an accident. A NUMBER TWO accident. yes. gross. At least it was solid. I know. but since then she's basically refused to to do #2 in the potty. We backed off again.
Time comes again and she's peeing in the potty. Even in school. Mainly in school, and sometimes at home. Here and there. But that also didn't last. At this point we tried just asking her randomly if she wanted to, but to no avail. She even stopped using it at school. even though all her other peers were training. We bought her lots of cute underwear and she liked wearing them, but still didn't want to use the potty. We tried going hard core. wear only underwear. That too did not work. She'd hold it in as long as she could until she had an accident with #1. And #2? She held it in for a day and a half. At that point, I was like screw it. That's not healthy. So we put a diaper back on and lemme tell you the next bowel movement she had after that almost came out the top of her diaper and the sides, it was so full. I know. Gross. But this is potty training I'm talking about.
We tried rewarding her, stickers and chart. Nothing. She didn't care. She didn't care that the kids in her class were now trained or almost trained. Peer pressure? What peer pressure. She doesn't care. I guess that's good though later in life. By now we're frustrated and she senses it. Bad. I know. So she's refused. And We just give up. Well back off... with a new tactic.
We left the chart and stickers out. But we never again mention it. We don't even ask. One day recently she comes up to me out of no where and says, "I need to use the potty." "ok, go ahead. Let me know when you're done." I basically tell her like it's no big deal. Like I don't care if she does or doesn't. And she used it! I was so excited! We did the whole idiot dance, stickers and reward. A few times after that she tried but did nothing. But she got stickers for trying anyway. Smaller stickers for trying and big stickers for actually doing it. We went to the store when she did use the potty and got her little rewards we call prizes.
This week, she has been consistent in peeing in the potty. She's actually found it as a way to stall during bedtime. She'll be laying in bed, lights off and 10 mins into laying there she'll cry and say she needs to use the potty. I know it's a stall tactic, but I can deny her that if she really needs to use it. So I let her, and she really peed! She's done that every night this week and also has used it twice at school. Today I got off work early and picked her up early too. It's 6:36pm and she has peed 6 times in the potty today! I KNOW! Twice at school and 4 more times since then.
So, I'm positive that this will be it this time. no more set backs. She has yet to do #2 but that's ok. If she feels she has to master #1 first I'm all for that. I've known that she knew how to use the potty, when etc. She could hold it if she needed to. I think she just didn't want to. almost like she was too smart ofr her own good. And now she feels like it so she's just doing it. On her own. so my hope is that this is the last try and MAYBE, just maybe it'll go by fast since she knows how and it's just matter of her doing it.
They say girls are easier to train than boys. Everyone I know with a girl says it was easy. Took no time. Boys were harder. Well, not this girl. this girl has been in training for a year now. We introduced the potty to her at about 15 months. She seemed very interested in it. She wanted to sit on it all the time. I thought wow.... this is gonna be easy. wrong.
The first time she peed in it, honestly, she freaked out. I guess that feeling of lack of protection that a diaper gives freaked her out. But we cheered her on and danced liked idiots and she found some comfort in that... although reluctant to pee again. We backed off. Didn't want to push it as they say that making them do it when they aren't physcially and emotionally ready can set you back. Time came and she wanted to try the potty again. This time she did #2! Well that really freaked her out. She actually started crying this time. Junior was at work so I did the idiot dance by myself. Cheered her on, told her how proud I was, etc. She felt good about it. But anytime after that if asked whether or not she wanted to use the potty, she would always say no. So we backed off.
Time comes again and she's curious about the potty. She still seems a tad reluctant but interested at the same time. So I've also read that sometimes when the parent uses the toilet while they sit on their own potty, it helps. SO... I did that. I sat there... while she sat there. It was a while. But we sat. She says she's done and gets up to get a diaper or pull up. So she runs to her room to get it, i'm making my way there but not yet there. Then I hear crying. When I get there, she had an accident. A NUMBER TWO accident. yes. gross. At least it was solid. I know. but since then she's basically refused to to do #2 in the potty. We backed off again.
Time comes again and she's peeing in the potty. Even in school. Mainly in school, and sometimes at home. Here and there. But that also didn't last. At this point we tried just asking her randomly if she wanted to, but to no avail. She even stopped using it at school. even though all her other peers were training. We bought her lots of cute underwear and she liked wearing them, but still didn't want to use the potty. We tried going hard core. wear only underwear. That too did not work. She'd hold it in as long as she could until she had an accident with #1. And #2? She held it in for a day and a half. At that point, I was like screw it. That's not healthy. So we put a diaper back on and lemme tell you the next bowel movement she had after that almost came out the top of her diaper and the sides, it was so full. I know. Gross. But this is potty training I'm talking about.
We tried rewarding her, stickers and chart. Nothing. She didn't care. She didn't care that the kids in her class were now trained or almost trained. Peer pressure? What peer pressure. She doesn't care. I guess that's good though later in life. By now we're frustrated and she senses it. Bad. I know. So she's refused. And We just give up. Well back off... with a new tactic.
We left the chart and stickers out. But we never again mention it. We don't even ask. One day recently she comes up to me out of no where and says, "I need to use the potty." "ok, go ahead. Let me know when you're done." I basically tell her like it's no big deal. Like I don't care if she does or doesn't. And she used it! I was so excited! We did the whole idiot dance, stickers and reward. A few times after that she tried but did nothing. But she got stickers for trying anyway. Smaller stickers for trying and big stickers for actually doing it. We went to the store when she did use the potty and got her little rewards we call prizes.
This week, she has been consistent in peeing in the potty. She's actually found it as a way to stall during bedtime. She'll be laying in bed, lights off and 10 mins into laying there she'll cry and say she needs to use the potty. I know it's a stall tactic, but I can deny her that if she really needs to use it. So I let her, and she really peed! She's done that every night this week and also has used it twice at school. Today I got off work early and picked her up early too. It's 6:36pm and she has peed 6 times in the potty today! I KNOW! Twice at school and 4 more times since then.
So, I'm positive that this will be it this time. no more set backs. She has yet to do #2 but that's ok. If she feels she has to master #1 first I'm all for that. I've known that she knew how to use the potty, when etc. She could hold it if she needed to. I think she just didn't want to. almost like she was too smart ofr her own good. And now she feels like it so she's just doing it. On her own. so my hope is that this is the last try and MAYBE, just maybe it'll go by fast since she knows how and it's just matter of her doing it.
Friday, April 29, 2011
New Beginning... Sort of.
January 2010 was my last post here. Wow. New record there. Let's be honest here, it's tough to blog once you have a kid. So a year and two different jobs later and I decide to blog once again. A friend of mine at work is pregnant. I can't remember what led me to think about it, but I thought to tell her that if she ever gets bored (and I mean bored) to check out my blog. I explained that I kept up with it fairly religiously all throughout pregnancy and then here and there for about a year or so after. So she could see what type of things I went through, etc. not that she needs to, but again.. if she was REALLY bored. hehe.. so it got me thinking of looking back on my blog myself. And in doing so I was reinspired to continue it on.
They say that after you have the baby that you tend to forget about a lot of things; that it's mother nature's way of getting you to have more kids. And to some degree that is true. I clearly remember the day I had Toni and MY LACK OF AN EPIDURAL, but honestly I don't remember the pain. My head knows I was in pain, but I don't remember what it was like. Well, reading back on this blog i was reminded of things I went through and I ENTIRELY forgot about. (Ok warning, if you are new to my blog I don't filter. Read at your own risk) So the pain i was having in my groin from the baby... TOTALLY forgot all about that!!! Ok I got a little off track. That's not what inspired me to blog again. lol...
I was inspired more by the posts of after I had Toni. The videos and pictures of her... it brought tears to my eyes. I almost forgot how small and dependent she once was. Not that she is not dependent now, but she is much more independent! And I thought to myself, how awesome is this? One day she can look back and see what Mommy went through before she was born and see her progress as she grew. Given she will be three in less than three weeks which basically means I missed an entire year.. even a little more. But one year in the span of a lifetime isn't so bad.
So what better way than to start off right before her third birthday? By now she is full fledged talking. And non stop at that. She is one smart cookie. She knows her ABC's, 123's (perfectly until 20ish) and can also count in spanish. She knows her months and days and her colors. She is learning to read and is pretty good at that too. The logic this little girl has blows me away sometimes. It's amazing. Ok, so maybe it was just one year but I admit a ton of development was missed in my blogs. In my defense I sort of documented it through Facebook. Does that count?
So we're coming up to her 3rd birthday (I know, can you believe it???) but it's almost like her 1st. I say that because this is the first year she is truly excited about her birthday. Her second birthday she sort of got the whole cake and presents thing, but not completely. This year, it's all she can talk about. So it's pretty exciting for me too. It will be a Hello Kitty theme and I will be making the Hello Kitty cake and Hello Kitty cake pops. <--- yes that is new sinceI last blogged too. But if you sort of follow me through Facebook then it's no new thing.
So more to come and pictures too! Thanks for reading! (again for some of you).
They say that after you have the baby that you tend to forget about a lot of things; that it's mother nature's way of getting you to have more kids. And to some degree that is true. I clearly remember the day I had Toni and MY LACK OF AN EPIDURAL, but honestly I don't remember the pain. My head knows I was in pain, but I don't remember what it was like. Well, reading back on this blog i was reminded of things I went through and I ENTIRELY forgot about. (Ok warning, if you are new to my blog I don't filter. Read at your own risk) So the pain i was having in my groin from the baby... TOTALLY forgot all about that!!! Ok I got a little off track. That's not what inspired me to blog again. lol...
I was inspired more by the posts of after I had Toni. The videos and pictures of her... it brought tears to my eyes. I almost forgot how small and dependent she once was. Not that she is not dependent now, but she is much more independent! And I thought to myself, how awesome is this? One day she can look back and see what Mommy went through before she was born and see her progress as she grew. Given she will be three in less than three weeks which basically means I missed an entire year.. even a little more. But one year in the span of a lifetime isn't so bad.
So what better way than to start off right before her third birthday? By now she is full fledged talking. And non stop at that. She is one smart cookie. She knows her ABC's, 123's (perfectly until 20ish) and can also count in spanish. She knows her months and days and her colors. She is learning to read and is pretty good at that too. The logic this little girl has blows me away sometimes. It's amazing. Ok, so maybe it was just one year but I admit a ton of development was missed in my blogs. In my defense I sort of documented it through Facebook. Does that count?
So we're coming up to her 3rd birthday (I know, can you believe it???) but it's almost like her 1st. I say that because this is the first year she is truly excited about her birthday. Her second birthday she sort of got the whole cake and presents thing, but not completely. This year, it's all she can talk about. So it's pretty exciting for me too. It will be a Hello Kitty theme and I will be making the Hello Kitty cake and Hello Kitty cake pops. <--- yes that is new sinceI last blogged too. But if you sort of follow me through Facebook then it's no new thing.
So more to come and pictures too! Thanks for reading! (again for some of you).
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